With millions of Australian men and women having lost their mother, and others missing their mum for different reasons, Mother’s Day is tough for many.

Danielle Snelling, Co-Founder and Executive Officer at Motherless Daughters Australia explained in an interview how we can approach Mother’s Day, caring for our own hearts and for those around us who may have lost their mother.

“It is such a hard time for people who have lost their mum or who just don’t have a mum in their life at the moment for whatever reason,” Danielle said, having co-founded Motherless Daughters Australia after losing her own mum when she was just 23.

For those Who are Grieving

Danielle says that the most important thing a grieving daughter can do in the leadup to Mother’s Day is to reassure yourself that your feelings and responses are normal.

“There’s no right or wrong,” she said. “All feelings are ok and valid – just really nurture yourself during this time.”

Nurturing yourself during this time may look like staying off social media, or limiting your exposure, while Mother’s Day happy snaps are going viral.

Danielle also suggests surrounding yourself with people who are great listeners and who can help you acknowledge your loss, supporting you as you find ways to honour and celebrate your mum in a different kind of way.

Even doing something that your mum loved may be comforting, like making her favourite dish or watching her favourite movie.

For Friends of Those Who are Grieving

Danielle advises friends to be proactive in caring for a friend who is missing their mum this Mother’s Day. And a simple text message can be a great place to start.

“Send them a message to let them know that you’re thinking of them during what’s a really difficult time of year,” Danielle said.

“Don’t forget, just because she might have died, it doesn’t mean that she doesn’t exist or that she never existed.”

It can be difficult to know what to say in moment like these, so Danielle offers the following message suggestions:

• I’m thinking of you.
• Are you free for a walk?
• Would you like to talk about it?
• I’d love to know what your mum’s name was.
• Is there a memory that you’d like to share?

“Holding space for people who have lost their mum and inviting in conversation is really important,” she said.

“They want people to ask about it because when you start talking about your mum [who has passed away], people are often very uncomfortable… so we encourage everyone to invite conversation and hold space for that chat.”

Most importantly, Danielle says, is to simply “listen without judgement or criticism and just offer a safe space where you can invite conversation from them.”

Article supplied with thanks to Hope Media.

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About the Author: Joni Boyd is a writer, based in the Hawkesbury Region of NSW. She is passionate about the power of stories shared, to transform lives.

It’s 3am, and my seven-month-old baby boy is sleeping. I’m 38 years old and have a beautiful husband. I’ve travelled the world, have had life experiences good, bad, and ugly. I babysat when I was younger and was heavily involved with my niece’s upbringing.

Yet, nothing really prepared me for motherhood.

I grew up hearing that God will not give you more than you can handle. While I could recite it from memory, it didn’t really feel like I could handle it.

I wasn’t looking for cheap thrills and quick fixes—I needed some deep-down soul food. So, I found myself searching the scriptures and crying out, “God, I need your help!”

There, in those quiet moments, living off 3-4 hours of sleep, with stained clothes, messy hair, and tear-streaked cheeks, gazing at the most wonderful little face, I found myself recalling God’s promises on my life, such as Lamentations 3:22-23 – “The steadfast love of the Lord never ceases; his mercies never come to an end; they are new every morning; great is your faithfulness.”

I wish I could tell you that after reading those words, everything changed, and I didn’t struggle anymore, and God took away my challenges. But that’s not what happened.

What I needed in those moments was to know that God could see me, that He was aware of what I was going through. And while I felt forgotten by the world, He had not forgotten me. What I needed wasn’t rescue; I needed faithfulness. Just like my child didn’t need some special super-human display, he just needed me to be faithful in my efforts as a mother—and that is what I needed from my good Father: faithfulness to give me what I needed in each and every moment.

The Faithfulness That Carries Us

It was this hope that helped me talk back to the devil when he tried to steal my motherhood joy away. The exhaustion, the frustration, the doubts—they don’t define this season. Motherhood is hard, but it’s also sacred—a unique season where we can experience God’s steadfast love, mercy, and faithfulness in new and profound ways.

God reaches us on any and every level we are at, especially motherhood. When I felt worried and anxious, I remembered that God sees me, cares for me, and will provide what I need. I can rest from my fears and anxieties, handing them to Him. Just like so much of motherhood is rinse and repeat, when we find ourselves worrying again, we simply go back daily to God in prayer and dependence, surrendering ourselves and our situations to Him.

Motherhood: A Sacred Awakening

Motherhood has helped me wake up to myself and has also awakened my faith in God—believing more deeply in His word and seeing that in it, He has given us all that we need. And a little bit of coffee always helps too.

Happy Mother’s Day, you Warriors! Keep on keeping on and give it to God.

Article supplied with thanks to Rhema 99.7.

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