By: Sabrina Peters
When people hear the term positive psychology, they often assume it’s about forcing optimism, ignoring struggles, or pretending everything is fine.
But true positive psychology is so much deeper. It’s not about denying pain or sugar-coating reality—it’s about building resilience, finding meaning, and strengthening the qualities that help us thrive.
In a world where mental health conversations often focus on what’s wrong, positive psychology asks…
- What’s going right?
- What strengths do you already have?
- How can we cultivate well-being, not just reduce suffering?
It’s a science-backed approach to flourishing. And the best part? Anyone can practise it.
Positive psychology is the scientific study of what makes life worth living. While traditional psychology often focuses on treating mental illness, positive psychology focuses on mental wellness—helping people move from just getting by to truly thriving.
The 5 Elements for Lasting Wellbeing
Dr. Martin Seligman, the founder of positive psychology, identified five key elements that create lasting wellbeing—often referred to as the PERMA Model:
- P – Positive Emotions: Cultivating joy, gratitude, and hope
- E – Engagement: Finding ‘flow’ in activities that challenge and absorb you
- R – Relationships: Building strong, meaningful connections
- M – Meaning: Feeling a sense of purpose and deeper fulfilment
- A – Accomplishment: Setting and achieving goals that matter to you
Together, these elements help us not just survive, but thrive.
The Benefits of Positive Psychology
1. Stronger Mental Health
Positive psychology doesn’t replace traditional mental health treatment, but it complements it. Research shows that practising gratitude, optimism, and strengths-based thinking can reduce symptoms of depression and anxiety.
Instead of just managing distress, positive psychology actively builds mental resilience—helping people bounce back faster from challenges.
2. Greater Emotional Resilience
Life is tough. No amount of ‘positive thinking’ can change that. But what can change is how we respond.
Studies show that people who practise positive psychology handle stress and setbacks better. Why? Because they:
– Focus on what they can control
– Reframe setbacks as challenges rather than failures
– Use gratitude, mindfulness, and strengths-based thinking to keep perspective
In short? They don’t avoid hardship, but they don’t let it define them either.
3. Improved Relationships
Happiness isn’t just about how we feel individually—it’s about how we connect with others.
Positive psychology research shows that strong relationships are one of the biggest predictors of happiness.
By cultivating kindness, empathy, and deeper conversations, we build relationships that nourish rather than drain us.
4. Increased Motivation & Achievement
Have you ever noticed that when you feel confident and energised, you’re more likely to take action? That’s because positivity fuels motivation.
People who focus on their strengths rather than their weaknesses:
– Set more meaningful goals
– Are more persistent in the face of setbacks
– Feel more capable of achieving what they want
This doesn’t mean ignoring weaknesses. It means shifting the focus from what’s ‘wrong’ to what’s already working—and building from there.
5. A Deeper Sense of Meaning
One of the most overlooked aspects of mental well-being is purpose.
Psychologists have found that people who have a sense of meaning in life are happier, healthier, and even live longer(Ryff & Singer, 1998).
This could be through:
- Faith and spirituality
- Helping others
- Creative expression
- Work that aligns with your values
When we connect with something bigger than ourselves, life feels more fulfilling.
The best part about positive psychology? It’s not just theory—it’s practical.
Simple Positive Psychology Practices
Here are a few simple ways to integrate it into your daily life:
1. Start a Gratitude Practice
- Write down 3 things you’re grateful for each day.
Gratitude rewires the brain to focus on what’s good, rather than what’s missing. Research shows that gratitude can increase happiness and reduce depression (Emmons & McCullough, 2003).
2. Identify & Use Your Strengths
Instead of obsessing over what you need to fix, ask:
- What am I naturally good at?
- How can I use that more in my work, relationships, or personal life?
When we play to our strengths, we feel more engaged, energised, and fulfilled.
3. Practise ‘Savouring’
How often do we rush through life, onto the next thing?
- Take a moment to truly experience something good—a conversation, a meal, a sunset.
Savouring slows us down and deepens our experience of joy.
4. Shift from ‘What’s Wrong?’ to ‘What’s Strong?’
When facing a challenge, instead of just focusing on what’s hard, ask:
- What strengths do I already have that could help me through this?
- When have I overcome something similar before?
This simple shift boosts confidence and problem-solving ability.
5. Invest in Relationships
Happiness is deeply tied to the quality of our relationships.
– Reach out to a friend
– Spend more time with people who energise you
– Practise active listening—really hear others
Connection matters. Make it a priority.
What Makes Life Worth Living
Positive psychology isn’t about ignoring struggles—it’s about equipping ourselves with the tools to move through them.
It’s about asking:
- What makes life meaningful?
- How can I build resilience?
- How can I create a life that’s fulfilling, not just functional?
Because mental health isn’t just about fixing what’s broken—it’s about building what makes life worth living.
About the Author: About the author: Sabrina is a pastor and a psychologist who is dedicated to helping people experience wholeness and growth. Passionate about building healthy families, she spend her days raising kids, supporting clients, and creating resources that inspire freedom and hope.
Article supplied with thanks to Sabrina Peters.
Feature image: Photo by Katrina Wright on Unsplash
